And I’m not talking about those random people you make friends with in class cuz you don’t know anyone else, although that can be weird too. I’m talking about actual, real, potentially life-long friendship. Its a strange thing when you really think about it.
Let me put this conversation into context: For the past three months I’ve been preoccupied with trying to “save” my friendship with certain people, and making the most of what was left of it with others. But I didn’t even need to. That’s the strange part. I met my two best friends in middle school. You know what I was like in middle school? I was dorky, ugly, and hopelessly naive. But somehow I managed to pick the two greatest people on earth to be friends with. That’s the weird part.
Its like, completely by chance, you meet these people. But at first you don’t think anything of it. I mean really, who goes into a friendship thinking “I’m gonna make this person my bfffl, and I’m gonna love them, and we’re gonna keep in touch in college, and they’re gonna come to my wedding, and my kids are gonna call them “aunt (insert name here) even though we aren’t related”? Nobody. That’s who. And as someone who’s been in more than a few toxic friendships, I never expected it to last.
But it did. Out of all the stupid decisions I made when I was twelve years old, I still made two very good decisions to befriend two amazing girls. I honestly can’t imagine my life without these two. I love them. I tell my friends “I love you” more often than I tell my parents (is that weird?). Our relationships have already withstood the test of time and distance, so I know that they’re the kind of life long friends that everyone dreams of. This whole time I was worrying for nothing. I thought I’d lose at least one of them when college started if not both.
But we’re still as closer as ever, if not closer. I talk to one of these girls literally every day. At this point its weird not to. But I don’t talk to the other as often. And somehow that works. She’s the kind of friend that I can go a month without talking to but its like nothing changes between us. And the other is the type that I bug with every little detail of my life and text all day between classes. I realize that that’s basically the perfect balance.
Damn, I’m lucky.
(Not to mention my sister whom I love very much, so please don’t get all jealous/pissed when you read this cuz you know you’re #1)
But its still weird to think about. Its like, one day you ask someone to be your partner in gym class, then fast forward seven years later and you’re both reminiscing about the day you two first met. I just think its so strange how with some people you just immediately click, and with others you don’t.
Moral of the story: If you’re meant to be friends with someone, it will never be hard to stay friends.