A few days ago I received an anonymous question on tumblr from a young Muslim asking for advice. I think this is a topic we can all relate to in some way, so I wanted to share it with you.
Q: I feel I can’t do anything, and there are so many pressures. How can I get out of this stump? I keep hating Islam for being so strict. I’m not allowed to wear jeans, bright colours, listen to music, draw anime, etc. it’s not fair. What do I do?:(
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I understand your problem completely. But please don’t hate Islam because of rules that others enforce on you. I very much believe in finding a middle ground in how you practice your religion. If something you’re currently doing (maybe in terms of modesty or piety) has become too much for you, don’t be too hard on yourself. Find an alternative that is sufficient but also easier for you, that makes you feel comfortable, and that makes you appreciate your faith.
The Prophet PBUH said “Never be extreme regarding religion.” Islam is a religion that encourages balance and finding a middle ground. This means that you should not push your limits. Yes, you should still worship Allah as much as you can, but if you push yourself too far, that is when you start to develop the kind of feelings you’re having. You get stressed and angry and you begin to see the religion as a set of rules and a list of things you’re forced to do, rather than a peaceful way of life.
On the other hand, I get where you’re coming from. I think there are a lot of young Muslim people who feel like this at some point. We’ve all been jealous of the non Muslims who get to wear shorts and tank tops when its hot out, or the ones who get to wear pretty dresses and go to prom, or go to concerts, or even something as simple as being able to wear a T-shirt that your mother would think is too tight.
We all go through that, and I struggled with it for a while, and sometimes still do, but as I got older I learned that a lot of the rules my parents made me follow were for my own good. I know it’s hard to understand right now, especially when it seems like everyone else your age has so much more freedom than you do, but that’s not the case. As you get older you start to appreciate your modesty and innocence, especially when the people around you start making poor choices.
Remember that you have received the ultimate blessing to be a part of this religion. You’ve been given this amazing opportunity to have a close relationship with God and that’s something a lot of people don’t have. These “rules” you follow are meant to bring you closer to Him. If this is something you’re struggling with, then I encourage you to keep making dua and ask Allah for His guidance and mercy. And get to know your religion. You can’t appreciate it if you don’t understand it. Surah Nisa and Surat Al-Fath are great surahs to start with.
Please feel free to ask me for anything else you need help with. These are things that a lot of us Muslim kids deal with and I know its hard to find people to talk about it with, and I’d really like to change that.
Feel free to continue the discussion in the comments. I’d love to hear your thoughts and advice 🙂
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